SOLVED !!!!!!!
So I decided to go ahead and remove the head today. To my surprise, (and in a way relief) I found the problem...... (you can click on the pictures for a bigger view)
another shot
one more which MIGHT explain why it was leaking oil....
How the H**L could someone install the gasket like that and not notice it does not line up with SEVERAL holes? It is even partially blocking the oil passage!
not only that, but as I was taking things apart, anywhere there was "sealant" added, I think they used silicone, like the stuff you'd use to caulk around a sink !!
So I removed all the gasket material from everything I had apart, and installed the NEW head gasket, even had it running for a little bit (not running it for very long, I want to clean up all the oil residue first, from when it leaked so badly.
anyway, THIS looks a little better.....
oh cool, I made the holes line up!!
I did not end up taking the head into the shop, it looked fine, and obviously the gasket was the issue, and as mentioned it is a beater truck.
It just feels good to have found the problem and getting it resolved!
it took about an hour from start to finish to remove the head
and then I spent a few hours cleaning up gasket surfaces ( took my time) and then reinstalling the head.