Its late and I cant sleep...

Idk why Im posting this, maybe because I dont really have anyone to talk to. Or maybe its just late and Ive been thinking too much. Im just having trouble in seeing the good in anything lately. Its like whats the point? There used to be something to look forward to. Sure I have a good job, new truck, and all the toys I want but I would give them all up in a heartbeat for the one thing I want but cant have. Its been a year and I still miss her. Everyone keeps telling me to just move on and time heals, but this shit is still getting to me everyday. I dont understand how one day everything just changed and she wouldnt talk to me anymore. Maybe if I knew a reason it would be easier. I just want to be happy again. Im afraid that the rest of my life Ill be comparing everyone to this one person, and that they will never come close to be what I want. Its not like I have a whole lot of chances for this sort of thing. Im not a particularly good looking guy and I suck at first impressions. I guess it probably was too good to be true, better than I deserve. Ive tried to make changes to myself, but I dont like who Ive been. I feel like Im becoming an asshole. I dont want to be like that, that was something I always thought I had to offer, being a nice guy. The nice guy always loses though. I just want to get back to the old me. I dont know how.

Im sorry for boring you with my sob story, Im just whining away right now, Im not looking for a pity party I just needed to get that out.

Don't let it get you down man. I think we have all been there and can tell you it's only temporary.

On the bright side girls tend to love ass holes. I should know j/k

I can help you with this. In all seriousness, you have to say "fu*k it". It only hurts until you replace 'em. If it was meant to be it would be. I am not a religious man, but I, too have spent too many nights wondering why I didn't have a girl like my buddies do. The answer is because I hadn't met her yet. I was 30 before I settled down. Not sayin I never had girls, but the ones I liked didn't like me and the ones that liked me, I didn't care for. If she was soooo great, why would she leave a nice guy with no reason? Doesn't sound like that great of a person to me.

Now, being good looking adds up to DICK! I'm far from hot and never let it slow me down. I'll give you some advice:
1. Treat them like you would a buddy. That's the type girl you want to be with anyway; one that's fun with similar interests, etc. Crack jokes etc. Don't look up to her or down to her, eye to eye, as equals.
2. If you meet a girl and think she's really hot, limit the attention you give her. Pretty girls are used to guys sweatin them, treat her like she's just another person and she won't be able to get enough of it.
3. Don't focus so much on looks, yes she needs to be able to light your fire but looks don't last, personality does.
4. Any girl you think is too good for you, is just the opposite.
5. Lastly, get off your ass, quit dwelling on the past and shape your future into what you want it to be.
I hope this helps, Brad

I appreciate words of wisdom sir. thanks

I am the religious one here lol, so I've got something from that point of view for ya elbine.

Seek your joy and happiness from something higher and better than a mate. Put God first and He'll send the right person into your life at the right time.

This Scripture is speaking specifically about clothes and food, but you can put so many other things in life that we seek for joy in place of the clothes and food mentioned.

Matthew 6:Do Not Worry

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Mathew 6:33 and 34 are some of my favorite versus.








-Justin

O.o coulda sworn I saw something about religion being an unallowed topic.... >.>

elbine..trust me from the depths of your being man!.. i know EXACTLY where you are coming from..thats part of the reason i was away for awhile..you cant look or wait for another girl to come along.. there is really nothing you can do to help it either.. if you just keep on trucking along and actually say f*ck it like dat dood said it will work.. you just gotta find some happiness..go rip around in your truck,take a small day trip somewhere cool, etc..basically if you're happy the ones you want will come to you..i know this first hand.. my girl is my soulmate...and at our first date i rolled up fresh outta work and covered in my job (my own auto shop) i told her that i was coming from work and i was nasty..she said she didnt care as long as i came..just make sure that any girl you want something with likes you at your worst..then they are worth the time...but as girls get older they realize who are the guys that would treat them right..

Thanks for the thoughts man. I kind of understand about you cant look or just wait around. I gave the whole online dating thing a go, I met a few really cool girls. One of which we just kind of clicked and I though it was going somewhere, but she was sick and didnt want to get involved in anything then. The weird thing is the day after I posted this she started texting me again haha. She was having a bday party tonight, but its an hour away and I have to work in the morning or I would be there. There's another girl at work that I wish I wasn't afraid to talk to. Idk why but I'm intimidated by her, and I don't know how to get over that because she seems like a really cool girl from the tiny amount I've been around her. Im just trying to go with the flow. I guess I just need to harden the fu*k up.

well..found out through the years..never be afraid to talk to anyone..you never know where it will lead you..you always kick yourself in the ass later for not speaking up...and just go with the flow..when its supposed to happen it just will..its weird how things work out